Review / Fifty Shades of Grey

Fifty Shades of Grey

On Friday night I went to see Fifty Shades of Grey with my boyfriend. I was quite happy to go alone as I couldn’t find anyone who wanted to see it, but I think he was intrigued as to what all the fuss was all about so he tagged along. 

Does it live up to the hype? I think it depends on a) whether you have read the books and b) what you were expecting. If you’ve read the book you understand the small things that aren’t shown in the film, and why Christian is the way he is. This won’t be shown until the next film but I think it’s good to have the context. My boyfriend made the comment ‘Christian is sick’, which is probably true to someone taking it at face value, without reading all thee books – but we know the reason behind the behaviour. Some of the scenes translate to some really awkward scenes on screen but I just think it emphasises the niavety of Anastasia. 

There has been a lot of hate for the film, even before it’s release, commenting on how the film is showing an abusive relationship and is a danger to impressionable young women. Firstly, everything in the relationship is consensual. The relationship Christian outlines may not look healthy to the majority of people, but it works for all parties involved and they agree to all aspects of it. Just because it isn’t healthy for you, doesn’t make it unhealthy for everyone else. Christian asks Anastasia multiple times if she is OK with it, telling her she can leave, but she choses not to.

We start to see that the relationship with Anastasia changes the dynamics of Christians usual relationship, to the extent that he relaxes on the contract and just wants to be with her, with some form of ‘rules’ of course – but even if this wasn’t the case, there is nothing wrong with the relationship, after all it is fiction anyway…

If you are expecting porn, go online and watch some as this isn’t for you. Expect some pretty intense sex scenes, a lot of boobs and Jamie Dornan looking mighty fine. Although he isn’t my Christian Grey he plays the part really well. Dakota Johnson is also amazing and the chemistry the two have is unreal. 

If you do go and watch it be prepared for the fact you’ll have to see the next films, it ends of a pretty big cliff hanger, which I suppose is pretty frustrating, but it’s the same as the books – roll on the next film.

Would I see it again? Yes, so if anyone is looking for someone to go with, I’ll be there! If you don’t like the idea of Fifty Shades of Grey, don’t read/watch it just so you can have an opinion, spend your time doing something constructive. There are plenty of books that actually promote/discuss rape, murder etc – so why aren’t they under the limelight when brought to the big screen? Why do we all seem scared of anything other than ‘vanilla’ sex? The film is an 18, not a PG!

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14 comments

  1. Went and watched it on Valentines Day with friends…now, I haven’t read the books but can honestly say I wasn’t blown away by the film. I think all the issues around the BDSM, the relationship etc, all those things the media are coming out with are unbelievably over-hyped (as usual) and the film was MUCH tamer than I expected! Thoughts will be on the blog on Monday! Really can’t see myself picking up the books though!

    Sarah 🙂
    Saloca in Wonderland

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  2. yes she agreed to the sexual part of their relationship but she didn’t agree to be stalked, controlled (in general life), to be terrified of his reaction, or to have her safe word ignored. If someone ignores a safe word IRL then it instantly becomes unconsentual. His childhood does not excuse these behaviours and it’s dangerous for EL James to do so.

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    • Controlled? She enters into the relationship and stays there for a reason – she wants to be in the relationship, she loves him. I think his childhood makes part of it, yes it isn’t an excuse completely but our childhood effects us all and our coping strategies. They both help each other through both of their issues, just like any ‘normal’ relationship – but what is normal anyway?
      At the end of the day, it is fiction and the film is an 18. If at 18 you can’t take the fact it’s fiction at face value then there’s probably an issue there?

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      • I think it says a lot that it was excluded from the film. But ignoring the safe word is one of the best examples of his abusiviness

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  3. Because women never stay in bad relationships? Yes controlled, not been able to see certain people, controlling which birth control, controlling how many times a week she ‘has’ to exercise. These things should be a mutual decision not decided by one person who dictates it.

    I agree childhood affects out coping mechanisms but we also aim to try and not let these try and affect daily life.

    The film might be a 18 but every teen has watched a 18 when technically they shouldn’t. Fiction is often a reflection of society and normalises certain things. If at 14 you see a controlling relationship that’s seen as ‘love’ in a film it’s highly likely that becomes to be seen as ‘normal’.

    There’s a few blog posts around FSOG and domestic abuse that might help to clarify my argument a little bit 🙂

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    • I know what you are saying, I’ve read plenty of articles/blog posts discussing both aspects.

      However I don’t think this normalises the behaviour at all, it is highlighted throughout how it isn’t normal. The reaction from Ana when she learns of it, the other relationships throughout the trilogy, which are ‘normal’. The controlling behaviour isn’t accepted, it isn’t shown as normal, Ana fights it and her and Christian work through both of their issues, to a place where there is little control, a relationship we’d describe as ‘normal’.

      Surely it’s the same with any film though? It’s fiction, and yes 14 year olds might watch it but will they murder someone because they watched a film in murder? Or rape someone because a film ‘glamourises’ it?

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      • When rape is in a film it’s hardly hidden as something it’s not. It’s pretty obvious rape is wrong and people watching what ever film will recognise that. The same as murder. But when controlling behaviour is hidden as love it’s pretty different. Small example.

        Her car. He insists on buying her a new car ‘to keep her safe’, which yeah could be because he ‘loves’ her but she doesn’t want a new car and it happens anyway and he takes the decision away from her.

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  4. I went on a premiere of Fifty Shades of Grey with my best friends, hoping it would blow our minds. Have been waiting for this movie for a year or so, had read the books and I couldn’t really wait. My thoughts? Well, I think it was fine. Fine as for Jamie’s play, not Dakota’s, I wasn’t really keen on the way she played Anastasia, but I guess that’s just me. I reckon a lot of relevant scenes have been cut out, plus the ending was like ‘what the heck did just happened?’. Would I go to see it again? Surely, just tell me when, but I just think it wasn’t IT, for such a long time of waiting and expecting for the best. What I really liked in the move though was a scene when Ana called Christian completely wasted, had a good laugh about that, plus the ‘fuck the paper work’ scene, oh just so goood’.

    Rose
    http://www.lepetitrianon.co.uk/

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    • I know what you mean, I think we all had been waiting so long we had created the perfect film in our heads. I really loved Ana, that phone scene when she was drunk was so funny!
      I agree that there were scenes missed out, understandably because the film couldn’t have been 4 hours long… But I would have liked a 4 hour long film 🙊😂

      The ending for me was disappointing that it was, well the end. But I like how they linked their first meeting to it, sort of closed the book but we know there’s more to come!

      Thank you for your comment Rose 😊

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  5. I know some people have already commented this but I have to disagree saying the relationship is entirely consensual – he takes advantage of her the whole way through the story. He emotionally manipulates her, bribes her with gifts, displays a lot – and I mean a lot – of stalker tendencies. Theres a big difference between 100% willing consent, and the type of fearful, forced consent that Ana gives, definitely for the first book at least. Ana has no experience in dating, sex, or BDSM, and is essentially tricked into a dom/sub contract – and at one point when they are face to face to discuss the contract, he gets her drunk so that she will ‘loosen up’ and ‘communicate honestly’. Getting someone drunk means that they’re not themselves, and are more likely to be manipulated into doing things they wouldn’t do in a sober state. Never mind the part where he does actually rape her – she literally says no and tries to kick him off, and he tells her that if she struggles he will tie her up. At the very least it’s sexual assault. Having a damaged childhood gives no one the right to abuse someone else and to me this is classed as abuse. Sorry for the long comment but I’m getting frustrated at the people who don’t see this at all – it is a glamourised abusive relationship, where it’s apparently okay because she is constantly tricked into saying yes to things and being manipulated with expensive gifts and threats. I know everyone can have their own opinion and I do respect that but if you can’t see that there are least a few things wrong with his behaviour then it’s worrying! Just because it is fiction that does not make it okay.

    Thankyou for at least acknowledging this in your post though!

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  6. I personally hate anything in which a female is portrayed as submissive, even if it is consensual. Men are too often seen as the dominant person and this often leads to a woman being treat in a bad way, as the mother of a daughter I want her to see women in charge and strong. I agree this is just a film/book and everyone is entitled to love it/ see it whatever but for me it does not sit well.

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